Hurts that go bump in the night. This is a two-part talk helping women understand what obstacles keep them from having close friendships. Subjects cover anxiety, perfectionism and procrastination. Talks are a hHurts that go bump in the night. This is a two-part talk helping women understand what obstacles keep them from having close friendships. Subjects cover anxiety, perfectionism and procrastination. Talks are a half hour each.alf hour each.